What to Include in the Groom’s Wedding Toast
The groom’s wedding speech/toast is made on behalf of his bride and himself and it is the perfect time to give his thanks to the people involved in the wedding preparations and to those who love him, have stayed next to him and supported all his decisions. It is the most appropriate time to express in an entertaining and sincere way how he feels on one of the happiest and most important days of his life.
To be honest, dear grooms, there is no way you are going to get around this issue: if you are really sure about getting married, then prepare yourself to give a memorable toast. For most of the grooms, the wedding speech is their first ever major public engagement and just as many have no idea where, how and when to begin, what to say and where to end. This article will give you a few tips that are going to ease your responsibility and help you put together the perfect toast.
Before giving you ideas and advice, keep in mind that your speech must combine two of the most important qualities of public speaking: humor and heart. Forget the humor and you are a really boring and common speaker, forget the heart and you are an insensitive milksop. Many grooms are lucky enough and get away with simple thanks and a few carefully chosen words about how beautiful their wife looks and how incredibly happy they are. That’s not so bad, but if you really want to impress your audience and create a moment to remember, aim higher and consider respecting the following structure:
- Start by thanking your new father-in-law for his speech. Remember that before your toast, he has his own moment, as important and filled with emotions as yours. Express your gratitude for his words and for having him next to you and your wife.
- Insert a short story about how you first meet your wife. How have you fallen in love? Where did you go on your first date? Try not to go too much into details (you should limit your speech to maximum 10 minutes in total) and be relaxed. Usually, this part of your toast will make it easier to get a laugh or at least a smile from your audience. If your first date is not that impressive, try talking about how you proposed. This will always be a great story.
- Thank your in-laws for welcoming you into the family, thank them for the beautiful wife they gave you and find a couple of positive things to say about them. Two or three sentences will be more than enough.
- If your bride has siblings, don’t forget to thank them too.
- Don’t forget to thank your own parents. Tell them how good they are. Be sentimental, but do not exaggerate. Find a way to make your mother cry (tears of happiness and emotion, of course) without boring the rest of the audience.
- Talk about your significant other. Tell the world why are you marrying her, why do you love her. Try to sum it up in three or four sentences and avoid “Valentine’s day talk”, everyone can do that. Talk from your heart.
- Thank the bridesmaids and comment about how beautiful they look, then propose a toast to them (do not forget to do so, this is an expected part of a wedding). Don’t forget about your best man and tell him what a great guy he is (this is the moment when you can pass the speech over to him and also a great opportunity for a good laugh after telling a really amusing story about you two).
If you agree to respect this format, then by the end of your toast, you’ll have made your audience laugh and cry… and then laugh a bit more. Your whole speech should last between eight and ten minutes, which is about right. Remember that no matter what you say, it is your special day and you need to enjoy it as much as possible.